How To Be A Great Wife ~ 7 Secrets That Will Have Your Husband Kissing The Ground You Walk On
“Behind Every Successful Man Is A Great Woman!” ~ Author Unknown
1) Build Him Up As Your Protector. Do you believe in your husband? Do you make him feel strong by the words that you speak or do you tear him down and make him feel weak? Do you follow his lead or do you crack the whip and expect him to follow your every command? Men always know whether or not their woman believes in him. Empower your husband and watch your own anxieties diminish. Hold onto his arm when you are out in public. Tell him that he makes you feel safe.
2) Be Madly In Love With Him. Show your playful, goofy side. Be silly. Be his friend. Give him your best smile; like the one you would give to a traffic cop if you were on the verge of getting a speeding ticket. Forgive the errors of his past and be vulnerable again. Don’t walk the path of the living dead who believe that the honeymoon has to fade. The honeymoon is a mindset and can be maintained and grown with a sparkling attitude of love.
“Of all the home remedies, a good wife is best.” ~ Kin Hubbard
3) Be Appreciative; Not Critical. Remember to thank your husband for the things that he does. All people like to be appreciated and husbands become great husbands when their efforts are acknowledged. It is a common mistake to become a fault finder but this only breaks a man’s spirit over time. Don’t take things for granted. It is easy to overlook the good that he does for you. Many wives harp on the things he doesn’t do when in fact he does so much. If your husband is a good provider; then acknowledge it. If he is more than a good provider; meaning he is thoughtful, fun, and romantic; then really pour on the appreciation. As long as your husband is performing at least in the range of 80% of your expectation, please let the occasional 20% slide.
4) Show Him Respect On And Off Stage. Most wives act right in public but get them home behind closed doors and Lord help them. Be slow to anger. Let your husband talk without interruption, criticism or correction. Husbands often get a bad rep as listeners but wives can be just as bad.
“My wife Mary and I have been married for forty-seven years and not once have we had an argument serious enough to consider divorce; murder, yes, but divorce, never.” ~ Jack Benny
5) Be His Biggest Fan. If you want to bring out the best traits in your husband, give him encouragement. Everyone needs encouragement. Don’t let your husband go without a daily dose of positive words from you. People thrive on encouragement. If your husband doesn’t get it from you, he will seek in through long hours at work or by shooting the most deer. He will get praise one way or another. Don’t make your husband seek it through outside sources because he didn’t get it from you.
“Many marriages would be better if the husband and the wife clearly understood that they are on the same side.” ~ Zig Ziglar
6) Greet Him With Enthusiasm. I am routinely telling men to greet their wives first and to do so with enthusiasm. Wives, you can take your marriage to a greater level of fulfillment if your meet him with the same air of happiness. Let your face light up in such a manner that you convey that you are glad to see him. Make this a habit to do even if you’ve had a rough day. Never allow circumstances to dictate how you are going to love your spouse. Without enthusiasm, your marriage will be doomed to a level of mediocrity.
7) Be Interested In His Interests. I’ll never forget the day I came home to change into my Taekwondo uniform for practice and my wife was wearing a brand new uniform and said “I think I would like to go with you tonight.” She stayed with it for years and became a three time state champion two years in a row as she earned her black belt. We had the best time training and going to competitions together. What is your husband interested in? You don’t necessarily have to get your black belt but you could at least learn the language of the things your husband is interested in; whatever it happens to be.
“Happy is the man who finds a true friend, and far happier is he who finds that true friend in his wife.” ~ Franz Schubert
Mark Webb is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice at South Georgia Psychiatric and Counseling Center in Valdosta. He is the author of How To Be A Great Partner. Mark has been in the field of helping individuals and couples since 1986. He has a vast amount of experience and he can have a very positive impact on your life and your relationship. If you are looking for individual or marriage counseling, please call his office in Valdosta, Georgia and his staff will help you set up an appointment.
South Georgia Psychiatric and Counseling Center
2704 N. Oak St. Blg B-3
Valdosta, Georgia 31602