31 Ways That Mark Is Different Than Most Therapists
31 Ways Mark Webb is Different Than Most Therapist
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01
Mark focuses more on finding solutions as opposed to focusing on the problems.
02
He is much more interactive than most therapists.
03
He is more directive than most therapists. He doesn’t just sit there and listen. Therapists are generally taught in school that it is better to let the client figure out what to do but if you are in crisis you don’t have time for that approach. Mark tells you exactly what to do in order to resolve your problems.
04
He realizes that most clients aren’t looking to be figured out but they are looking for skills, guidance, suggestions and support.
05
Mark is known for being direct but he is never mean in
what he says. He knows how to deliver direct feedback in a positive way with only an occasional sting.
06
He is the same inside of his office as he is outside of his office whereas a lot of therapists present with a stiffer version of themselves.
07
Mark takes the awkwardness out of therapy. He sets a
relaxed, conversational tone that doesn’t make you feel like you are being analyzed to death.
08
He teaches his clients how to master their emotions as
opposed to simply asking them “How do you feel about
that?"
09
He does not allow arguing in his office. He believes that couples can fight at home for free.
10
He does not believe that you have to start at the
beginning. A lot of clients stay with an ineffective
therapist because they don’t want to have to tell their story all over again. So they stick with the therapist even though they know it isn’t really helping.
11
He does not believe that you have to always go
backwards in order to move forward. He likes to get a
general idea of the problem and what you want to achieve and he moves from there. If you need to go back in order for clarification, that is okay but he doesn’t believe this is always necessary.
12
He worked in an impatient psychiatric hospital for 19
years with people who were in traumatic type situations so he has mastered the ability to help his clients get better quickly. (Oftentimes, he only had 3 to 5 days to help someone get back on track before they were discharged.)
13
He doesn’t believe that therapy has to be a long,
drawn out process
14
He asks upfront, “What do you want to achieve?” He
then develops a plan to make sure that you achieve those results.
15
Mark is good at noticing where the breakdowns are
occurring and how these are keeping you stuck.
16
He has a background in psychology and sociology
whereas most therapists only have one or the other. This combination gives him understanding of both individual and couples dynamics.
17
Mark doesn’t like to leave his clients in a mess so he
quickly focuses on stabilizing and improving the situation as fast as possible. He knows what it’s like to be in bad spot so he wants to get you and your relationship to a better position as soon as possible but in a way that won’t be a band aid approach.
18
He only wants to work with clients who are sincere
about getting better.
19
If Mark doesn’t think he can help you, he will help
you find the “right fit” for you and your situation. If he
cannot tell by the end of the first session, he typically will know within the first 3 to 5 sessions.
20
If you have betrayed the trust in your relationship, he
does not make you rehash the details and he doesn’t rub your face in it either. He focuses on re-establishing the trust as quickly as possible.
21
In couples’ therapy, Mark is guy friendly. A lot of
therapists gang up on the guy. Mark lives by the code that men need to stick together but please know that Mark is always tougher on the man because he believes that the man sets the tone for a relationship. (Even though it feels like the woman does).
22
If you don’t like Mark’s approach or you don’t see
significant results by the fifth session, Mark suggests that you dump him and keep looking for a better fit. Mark is very much aware that your therapy is about you, your relationship and your family. He wants you to find the best fit and realizes that other therapists may have the approach you are looking for.
23
He does not believe all marriages should be saved.
Some partners are just too sneaky or abusive. If he doesn’t think you and your partner are a good match, he won’t guilt you and he won’t make you feel obligated to keep trying.
24
If you have children, he feels like you and your
partner owe it to them to do everything you can to fix your problems, because if you don’t make it , your children can live with the truth that you gave it your all.
25
If Mark believes you are a great couple or have the
potential to be, he will fight 100% for your relationship.
26
Mark and his wife went to therapy in the early years of
their marriage so he knows what a nightmare therapy can be. “I left there many times wishing I had come in a
different car or was glad that I had.”
27
Mark has been in the field of helping individuals and
couples since 1986. His practice consists of him providing individual and couples sessions.
28
He is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and
has been since 1995.
29
He is a Clinical Member of the American Association
of Marriage and Family Therapy.
30
He only works with adults; whereas most therapists
see all ages.
31
He only works within his areas of specialty unlike a
lot of therapists who see any and everybody.
And a couple of other points of interest:
Mark has a great marriage to his wife, Dorraine. They have 3 grown children. He and his wife enjoy spending time together and they both say that their marriage just keeps getting better and better.
Mark is a Sixth Degree Black Belt in Taekwondo and he is a 17 World Champion in Taekwondo.